The German lawyer and Muslim feminist Watching Fire (b. 1963) with Turkish-Kurdish origins have written the battle script Islam needs a sexual revolution based on 23 year-old Hatun Sürücü's (1982 – 2005) final words "I fuck who I want" before she was killed by her own brother in Berlin. Despite the fact that the book is published in Norwegian ten years after the German edition Islam needs a sexual revolution, it is still relevant and important in the debate about Islam.
Religions were established by men at a time when women were even less worthwhile than today. It explains the reason for the women's oppressive attitudes in Islam, which do not follow the social changes in the world. Islam is lagging behind. Ates writes: “The Islamic world needs one sexual revolution to be able to assert themselves in a global and open world community and gain reputation and respect as an attractive religion. ”She is right.

Pedophilia and polygamy

But why does Islam need one sexual revolution to gain respect as an attractive religion? How to sexuality anything to do with this? The answer to these questions is found by the author of the Prophet Muhammad and his effulgent sex life, which is among the basic pillars of the Qur'an.

In Christianity, the desire for sex is not aroused by religion. The sex life of Jesus is not mentioned once in the Bible, while the Qur'an describes the sex life of Muhammad, with all the wives he should have daily satisfied, which helps to stir the imagination of the believers. The author writes that several of her Muslim interview subjects while working on the book confirmed this theory when asked about the influence of Muhammad's sex life on their own sex lives.

As described in the Qur'an, Prophet Muhammad has an obsession for virgins out of the ordinary. His first marriage to Khadijah lasts for 25 years and is monogamous, but after her death he marries 15 other women – 13 of them at the same time – and in addition he has countless concubines.

He marries his favorite wife Aisha when she is six years old, and deflates her three years later. This explains the reprehensible and partly illegal phenomenon of child marriage (also called pedophilia) which is still ongoing in some Muslim countries today. In the West, men who marry or initiate relationships with nine-year-old girls are considered pedophiles and then punished.

Muhammad describes virginity as an important characteristic of the woman; Every man should enjoy a virgin, since it is the greatest pleasure to deflorate an untouched woman. It is not explicitly stated in the Qur'an that a woman should enter into marriage as a virgin, but indirectly by requiring chastity and prohibiting extramarital sex.

Virgo is also made into something very special by the fact that after death, Muslim men are promised 72 virgins in heaven as a reward if they have lived a pious life, which is mentioned in the Qur'an nine times!

sexualization

Gender segregation and the coverage of women in Islam are counterproductive and help to sexualize the relationship between man and woman, precisely because of the taboo. When sexual contact is prevented, sexual feelings and thoughts are reinforced.

The sexualization of the woman with the hijab is comparable to the sexualization of the western woman as she appears naked or half naked in commercials, for in both cases sexual desires are aroused. During the prayer in the mosque and during a Muslim burial, full gender segregation is practiced. Then one can ask the question of what sexual thoughts have to do with a funeral or prayer?

In Islam, the woman is considered the devil and must therefore be covered and isolated. But
why do muslim men get sexual ignition of woman's hair?

Gender segregation is also not equal; In the mosque, men have the largest prayer room, while women are in a small downstairs room. During a Muslim burial, men throw earth over the deceased, while the women stand several meters away and watch.

In Islam, the woman is considered the devil and must therefore be covered and isolated. But why do Muslim men get sexual inflammation of the woman's hair? And why do they get ignition all the time, I wonder. In some Muslim countries, little girls are covered all the way down to the age of three, just because of the Muslim man's sexual thoughts.

A religious problem

Many public representatives of Islam want us to believe that women's oppression is about culture and not religion. But both in the Qur'an and in the hadiths there are texts that confirm the Muslim man's negative perceptions of women and women's sexuality, making this a religious problem and not just a cultural one.

Islam is a religion that is permeated by ancient and conservative traditions and cultures. If Muslim societies are to change and open up to modernity and sexual revolution, a settlement with the authorities is required, just as in the West. But the Muslim world does not allow criticism, neither of politics, the state nor religion, says Ates, and that makes it difficult to achieve a change, much less a revolution. So where and how should we start?

My mother is Muslim and believer, but not practicing. When I ask her why she defines herself as a Muslim when she does not pray, fast, or celebrate her five times a day, she tells me that her faith is personal and a matter between her and Allah, or God. She calls herself a Muslim for cultural reasons, not because she agrees with everything in the Qur'an. So she believes in God and not in religions, just like Ates, who describes the belief in God as something individual, inexplicable. In that sense, I am also a Muslim.